The Ultimate Mompreneur Question Spouse Or No Spouse

Earlier this week, I wrote an article about the fact that I highly disliked, (I even said, ‘hated’) the word ‘Mompreneur.’ That article sparked a lot of great feedback and with that, I received some questions as to whether or not my husband partnered with me in my business. I quickly answer, ‘NO!’ to that. That said, he is very supportive of me, but we agreed long ago that our careers would be separate.

When we got together, I was very independent. I had lived on my own since college, I had moved around to different fun cities because I could, and I was truly dependent on no one. I had a really hard time when I first got married. Having to really become a ‘team’ on where my life was going. I couldn’t just decide to quit a job and get a new one without talking it over with my husband. I couldn’t just move when I got bored with a place. I HATED that! It was a very difficult transition for me and after eight years and two kids, I am not totally recovered from my independent ways…far from it!

When an independent woman gets married and has kids, there is a sense of independence that is lost forever. My decisions are not my own anymore. They affect three other people and each decision is belabored to really think through the consequences of each decision. That said, my career and my home business is MINE! It’s the one place where I have utter independence. I make the decisions, and although I do realize they ultimately do affect my family, they are strategic decisions that are for the good of my family.

Working in the home business industry, I hear a lot of complaints about unsupportive spouses. Two things come to mind. One, why give an unsupportive spouse the ability to affect your business! When you TRULY believe in what you are doing, then it shouldn’t be too hard to stand up to an unsupportive spouse. Now, that said, the second thing that comes to mind is that usually spouses are usually unsupportive when they have seen no fruits of the labor of their entrepreneurial spouse. If that is the case, then the entrepreneurial spouse better start digging deep and locating tools and systems that will allow them to build their business quickly and start to earn an income. Nothing turns the head of an unsupportive spouse then the business actually affecting the family budget financially!

In conclusion, it’s a personal choice to involve a spouse in your business. I choose not to, some choose to do so. Either way, setting boundaries on each side in the way of goals and expectations is critical. To be perfectly honest, my sense of independence has certainly not been easy on my marriage. It’s something we work through everyday, but being dependent on myself has always been important to me. I choose to fulfill that personal goal, however, when I get home each day and my home is filled with laughter, music and wholesome fun, something I’ve become dependent on, I know that what I have set out to do independently truly is the best for my family!

Vidette Vanderweide is a successful ‘Mompreneur.’ She has produced a short video regarding this subject titled, ‘Another Idle Rant from a ‘Mompreneur’ – Spouse or No Spouse?‘ Vidette teaches network marketers to use cutting-edge online marketing strategies to quickly build any MLM organization .